A problem each family faces is conflict between siblings. In other instances, the effect of such may be negligible. In the case of the Family Farm, however, conflicts can escalate to rivalry, and complicate preparations for the next generation.
Dealing with conflict is certainly not easy, so here are a few steps to help manage it before it becomes a rift between family members.
Designate
Often, the cause of contention between children stems from trying to determine who is in charge. Whether it be by age, or experience, designate a leader during common tasks. Communicate your designation to all siblings involved. Doing so will establish order and authority. The sibling who is now the designated leader will have the opportunity to experience responsibility. Ensure that he or she understands this is not an opportunity to punish the other siblings. Instead, they are to teach and lead. When they do well, praise them. Encourage the other siblings to follow their example, and share your plans to increase each of their responsibilities as they learn and grow.
Delegate
You may notice special aptitudes and interests emerging in your children, or in your own siblings who are involved on the farm. The fact is, no two individuals are the same. This can become a great strength to your family. As talents are acquired, tailor the daily tasks and long-term goals of each sibling to their individual strengths. You may allow them to head up a facet of the farm, under your direction. As the tasks of the farm become divided among the siblings according to their talents and interests, each will feel great satisfaction for their own work, and respectfully acknowledge the talents and authority of the others.
Deliberate
Teach each sibling to set goals and make plans. As they plan for their individual stewardship, invite them to share those goals with the whole family. Encourage respectful suggestions from everyone involved while you preside over the discussion. As you train your family in the art of collaboration, they will come to respect each other’s strengths in the same way they revere your expertise.
In short, the individuality your children discover through the process above will unify them, and eliminate common causes of conflict. Contact us for more ways to manage conflict among siblings.
